I love the way that the Lord is stirring and leading right now. After a conversation with a friend last evening, He gave me dreams throughout the night causing me to awaken with an urgency to write this morning (I will tell you more about this at the end). I believe it is because you are on His mind.
I am convinced that at the core of every relationship struggle is the existence of unmet expectations. And the only way to find true peace in the midst of it is to communicate through current perceptions. I believe this becomes an impossible task if we are unwilling to first settle the personal wars that rage on the inside of each of us.
Check out what the Bible says about this in James 4:1-3—
What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. When you ask, You do not receive; because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.
There are familiar behaviors that manifest in different contexts of our lives, yet we still tend to fall into the trap of pointing the finger and blaming others for our conduct. We repeat patterns in our lives, all the while ignoring the common denominator. At some point, we ought to have the personal revelation that ‘wherever I go, there I am’.
Consider the man who deals with anger issues that are evidenced through road rage. Eventually, He should realize that everyone on the road is not incompetent or driving too slow. Or consider the woman who deals with insecurities (or who has rejection issues), which become the filter through which she views every social setting. Eventually, she should understand that the insecurity or rejection she feels is not always a direct result of others’ behavior. Even if unaware, we all live our lies based on our internal representation of the world around us.
In other words, our perception is our reality. But our perception is not always truth.
When Jesus said ‘You can know the truth and the truth will make you free,’ He was not only talking about the acquisition of accurate information. He was talking about an accurate view or the obtained information and the freedom that comes from that knowledge.
According to scripture, ultimate freedom comes when we resist worldly patterns and pursue transformation through the renewing of our minds (Romans 12:2). These practices are also the prerequisites for discerning the true will of God. In actuality, we all desire transformation…but we often reach for lower levels of change to satisfy the longing. It is human nature to choose the road of least resistance and the outcome will always be an inability to realize God’s dream for our lives.
Robert Dilts has established a model (called ‘neurological levels of change’) that provides framework for the different levels at which change takes place (acting as a general map of the change process). The idea is that when we feel dissatisfied, we find at least one thing to change (usually at a lower level) hoping that everything else will fall into place. Our attempts at making changes often begin and end with our environment- changing jobs or changing where we live or changing who we are married to-only to find the same old issues still exist in the new environment. ‘ wherever I go, there I am.’
The transformation process that Jesus offers is much more profound and complete.
He desires to change us from the inside out.
A few years ago, my dear friend and colleague Stephanie prayed for me and began declaring over me that God was making me into ‘the woman I always dreamed of being but never dreamed possible’. I knew that it was an invitation to higher living and it was going to require changes that weren’t going to be easy. I am pretty sure that I have thought about that statement every day since the day it was spoken. I realize now that it was a promise (given directly by God), and the fulfillment of it required my agreement.
2 Corinthians 1:20—
For no matter how many promises God has made, they are “yes” in Christ, and so through Him the “amen” is spoken by us to the glory of God.
I mentioned at the beginning of this post that I had a night of dreaming. the part that I feel to share with you is the sound that I awakened to in the morning. I heard the music to Frank Sinatra’s song “The impossible dream” and I distinctly heard the Lord say, “I dream the impossible dream about your life.” After I was fully awake, I looked up the lyrics and was undone by the kindness of God. I would like to share them with you…
To dream the impossible dream
To fight the unbeatable foe
To bear with unbearable sorrow
To run where the brave dare not go
To right the unrightable wrong
To love the pure and chaste from afar
To try when your arms are too weary
To reach the unreachable star
This is my quest
To follow that star
No matter how hopeless
No matter how far
To fight for the right
Without question or pause
To be willing to march into hell
For a heavenly cause
And I know if I’ll only be true
To this glorious quest
That my heart will lie peaceful and calm
When I’m laid to my rest
And the world will be better for this
That one man, scorned and covered with scars
Still strove with his last ounce of courage
To reach the unreachable star
Let me leave you with 3 takeaways-—
- God is the one who ‘dreams the impossible dream’ for our lives. This dream only becomes possible when we surrender to his process.
- When we identify/acknowledge the common denominator of the unhealthy patterns and cycles in our lives, we become positioned for true transformation.
- God is making you into the man/woman you have always dreamed of being, but never dreamed possible. To apprehend this promise, we must let go of the lower levels of change and believe that, through Christ, the highest levels of change are possible.
About the Author:
I love the Lord. I love my family (especially my husband Tim and my little girl Amelia). I am distracted by and deeply burdened for the preparation of the Bride for the end times, which causes me to ‘sound the alarm’ by teaching what the Bible says about these days and to partner with Him through worship and prayer. I love the group of people that I get to run after the prize with. I am the Executive Pastor at The Refuge Church www.therefuge.net. I travel and preach under the banner of Serenade Ministries. www.terifurr.com
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